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Oct 12th, 2017, 13:58 PM   #31
 
I had my 16 week check up today and I don't really like my midwife, ive only met her twice but i feel she talks down to me and when i asked questions about my blood type (I have the rare rh negative one which means i have to get a blood test and might need an anti d injection)she just made me feel stupid. Has anyone ever changed there midwife? Is it even allowed and how do you?
 
 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 14:27 PM   #32
 
We only have one midwife in our community as we are a small area so I think I would have trouble changing without traveling too far, however my last pregnancy there were 2 to 3 different midwives so you could always ask.
You have every right to ask questions so she shouldn't talk down to you. I have alot of questions for my midwife about bloods results I've had when I see mine around 16 weeks but I've not even made the app yet as awaiting screening results.
Did she listen to the heattbeat?
 
 

 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 15:50 PM   #33
 
Thats what i thought, she just makes me feel like I should know everything and this is my first baby and I'd never even heard of rh negative until I got my blood tests back and read the booklet I got from them. No she didn't, I have another apointment next week to get my blood test done to see what the baby's blood group is and she said she would listen to it then as I'm not quite 16 weeks she said we might not be able to hear it.
 
 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 20:01 PM   #34
 
My midwife with DS was amazing and always said the only stupid question was an unasked one. I think you call either your GP or the community midwives and see what they say. But you are always entitled to request a different midwife if you’re not comfortable with the one you have!
 
 

 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 20:22 PM   #35
 
Thanks Cossie, I think I will
 
 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 20:41 PM   #36
 
I never saw the same person more than once until I was on the ward for induction.

I expected that though as we're North London/Herts and it's a generally busy area etc.
 
 

 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 21:01 PM   #37
 
Hi Lander,

I'm in the same area as you but so far have seen the same midwife, for both my booking appointment and 16week.check.up but not sure if it's because I went through my doctors and I think there is only one midwife based there x
 
 
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Oct 12th, 2017, 23:54 PM   #38
 
Where are you both from ?
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 08:59 AM   #39
 
Ahhh so many of you already over here! I shouldnt be here til tuesday but nevermind haha. Can't believe tri two is almost here!!

Aww ftm sorry your midwife isn't very nice,I had a horrid one my first pregnancy and was on the verge of requesting a change when luckily she changed areas so I was given a much nicer one instead. If youre not comfortable ask to switch,it might also make her realize she needs to look at how she treats her ladies! I'm rhesus negative,they never tested baby's blood for me 2 years ago they just gave me the anti d in case,wonder its a new test? Did they say how they do it? Interesting its changed in a couple years! Will see what my midwife says when I see her at Halloween xx
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 09:58 AM   #40
 
Im in Hertfordshire.

Thanks Mrs Cookie, I think I will. And you don't have to you can just have the anti d injecton, I was given the option but if your baby is negative as well then you'd be having it unnecessarily. She said it was up to me what I did but so I just decided to have it as it saves me having it if the baby is negative
 
 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 10:54 AM   #41
 
Ah right,might be different in different areas then,I was just told I was getting it lol,good job I don't mind needles! Ive moved since last baby tho so wonder whether I'll get the option here! Were currently trying to decide whether to pay for a gender scan or not. 20 week scan is 6th December but could have a private one at 16 weeks 3rd November,hmm is it bad paying 50 quid just to find out a month sooner? I'm so impatient haha xx
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 11:44 AM   #42
 
50 isn't bad. Check they aren't doing any deals with it cheaper.
Personally we would have waited but the experience of a private scan is something else x
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 12:27 PM   #43
 
Yeah its on offer half price for 44.50 and includes a 4d peek. Its not bad but does seem a bit impatient for the sake of a month. But I really just can't wait to know lol. How long have you got left to wait for your results loula? X
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 12:39 PM   #44
 
We had a 4d peek and pics. Was a bit odd as at 14 weeks it was all skeletal. If your sure you don't want any more scans layer on privately go for it. Id prefer a private scan around 30 weeks just for piece of mind.
They said 7 to 10 days had it done Sunday I assume the bloods didn't get shipped until Monday maybe arrived Tuesday. I guess it's been 5 days so any day. Really wanted then for my birthday but oh well.
 
 

 
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Oct 13th, 2017, 12:58 PM   #45
 
We’re paying for a private gender scan. I’m far too impatient to wait for 20 weeks and as Loula said, the experience of the private Scan is incredible. It’s like 15 - 20 mins of just looking at baby mines a week on Monday and I can’t wait!!!
 
 

 
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