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Aug 8th, 2017, 12:28 PM   #16
 
Conversely I'm not sure how much knowing / not knowing helped me with my labours. My 'surprise' was an epic 51h labour and my easy one (4 hours) was when we knew gender.

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Aug 10th, 2017, 00:13 AM   #17
 
Hi!

We didn't find out with my daughter and it was the most wonderful experience having my husband telling me the gender, especially as we both had preference for a girl so convinced ourselves it was a boy! I've never been so happy.

This time things feel different - the pregnancy being unplanned for a start! We wanted to find out despite how wonderful finding out after labour was. We wanted to know because of all my daughter's clothes, if we'd have different genders sharing the same room and I was also worried that the wonderful experience from last time wouldn't be a good this time.,

We found out 3 weeks ago and it wasn't the lovely moment I had thought. We decided not to tell anyone so my daughter couldn't know and she was with us so the sonographer said she wouldn't say the words boy or girl. As soon as baby appeared on the screen, she went to the sideways shot and said "you see that bit there" that's what you're having...do you know what I mean?" 'Giggles all round...yes" I'd have thought she might have don't checks first so I was taken aback. We also had a second girl preference so I was a bit sad but couldn't be as my daughter was so cute with how she was reacting to stuff. Now however I'm not sad anymore. I'm quite excited at the thought of a boy. I know people say, and I'm one of them, that if you have a preference and don't get the gender you'd prefer and find out at birth then you can't be sad, but with hormones etc I really think I still would be so I'm glad I know now as the hope of a second girl has gone and I'm used to it. I also agree that having a preference has nothing to do with whether the baby is healthy or not. We all want healthy children - it's a given, not even worth mentioning it's so obvious. After that I think there must be a preference either way deep down if you admit it to yourself.
 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 14:11 PM   #18
 
I had a 15w scan today privately to take my son to... she asked if we wanted to know the sex and I very nearly caved.... but I didn't! Still team green!


 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 15:23 PM   #19
 
It doesn't matter to me.
With DD 20 week scan they told us they were almost definite she was a boy.

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Aug 12th, 2017, 15:58 PM   #20
 
Well done for staying strong Wednesday.

I'm having my sex scan in 2 weeks. A surprise would be lovely but the organised / list writing / control freak part of me me NEEDS to know I'm taking my 4yo to the scan as well.

Wow ts, so they got your sex wrong? Had you bought much for a boy? Its really unusual to be told boy and have a girl (apparently being told girl but having a boy is more common but it's still rare overall)

Some people go all out once they know the sex? Blue or pink everything and a lot of stuff is obviously washed / taken out of packets / used before baby comes so it's hard to swap?
 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 17:20 PM   #21
 
Well done for the restraint!!

Did you get good pictures? My pictures from yesterday's scan were so disappointing
 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 17:44 PM   #22
 
Carnat we had everything in blue. Called my mum to say she was a girl and her friend sent over a stack of girl clothes.

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Aug 12th, 2017, 21:28 PM   #23
 
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Well done for the restraint!!

Did you get good pictures? My pictures from yesterday's scan were so disappointing


Oh no way, how come??

I've postedthem in the Feb thread - they weren't amazimg like 12 week ones but not bad x


 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 22:09 PM   #24
 
I don't really believe 'being organised' means you have to find out the sex. Im THE most organised person in the world when I'm excited about something (I'd pretty much planned my whole wedding in about 3 months) and we still went for the surprise. We have lots of clothes, nursery decorated, furniture up, pram built etc, all with no pink or blue! Xx
 
 

 
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Aug 12th, 2017, 23:23 PM   #25
 
We didn't find out with our first. Hubby has very boy-heavy family, so we assumed boy. I really wanted a girl and I think I was a little worried that I'd be disappointed if it was a boy at the 20 week scan, but knew I wouldn't mind either way once baby was here. We did have a few later scans to check growth and placenta and did once think we saw open legs with nothing there, but still didn't know for definite as I'm not trained and know you can only tell from certain angles. It was lovely finding out we had a little girl when she arrived.

This time we found our because I genuinely didn't mind. I'd have been happy with 2 girls or happy to have one of each. I quite liked the idea of being able to get stuff sorted and I've been buying clothes in the sale from 0-3 up to 12-18 for our little boy. It was amazing finding out at the scan and it's been quite nice to experience it both ways.
 
 

 
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Aug 13th, 2017, 07:33 AM   #26
 
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I don't really believe 'being organised' means you have to find out the sex. Im THE most organised person in the world when I'm excited about something (I'd pretty much planned my whole wedding in about 3 months) and we still went for the surprise. We have lots of clothes, nursery decorated, furniture up, pram built etc, all with no pink or blue! Xx
Completely agree, number one was a surprise and we went for black pram and everything else was neutral.

Although we did buy a shedload of stuff when he arrived as we'd not gone mad with the neutral stuff.

I am not a massive pink fan for girls but I do find the neutral stuff quite limited (and boring? I wonder if there isn't a huge market for the it these days as 'most' people must find out??).

My old bedroom at my folks is filled to the brim of all mine and my sister and SIL baby clothes - we have 10 kids between us - so I'd rather dig through all the clothes before baby is born? Plus I need to break it to my kids which one of them will be sharing a room. Both kids have a preference as well (not the same sex) so I want to manage expectations and get them all prepared....

Biggest issue will be name. I literally do not like a single name? So finding out the sex halves the issue

I've done it both ways and whilst the feeling of finding out immediately after birth is one of the best things ever, knowing the sex already doesn't detract from how amazing it is meeting your baby for the first time.

My surprise was bloody amazing - although I was convinced in my bones he was a boy from early on - but my 'sex known' did allow me to be completely orgsnised. I didn't have to buy or wash a thing for weeks after she arrived.

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Aug 14th, 2017, 10:43 AM   #27
 
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I don't really believe 'being organised' means you have to find out the sex. Im THE most organised person in the world when I'm excited about something (I'd pretty much planned my whole wedding in about 3 months) and we still went for the surprise. We have lots of clothes, nursery decorated, furniture up, pram built etc, all with no pink or blue! Xx
I totally agree for the first. This was my argument to people when they said we weren't prepared. The baby had clothes and a room waiting for them, along with everything else they needed. This time we wanted to know as we have all her clothes and a tiny house! It's nice to be able to declutter knowing it's a boy.

Having said that...reading the comment above haha! I'm not sure how you can mistake boy to girl but clearly you can! X
 
 

 
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Aug 14th, 2017, 22:38 PM   #28
 
I'm finding out at 16 weeks! I think I'm just the really organised sort so like everything in motion sort of thing, colour schemes, furniture etc! I must drive my OH barmy

I'm actually terrible I have a massive preference for a girl as I already have a boy, yes..a healthy baby is grand but it's an added bonus when you get the fender you want, I feel really crap saying that! But I think id be gutted if #2 turns into another boy :/..and I think girls have way nicer clothes than boys do thesedays! And having the youngest granddaughter is also playing on my mind too :/
 
 

 
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Aug 15th, 2017, 08:26 AM   #29
 
I wanted to keep the gender a surprise.. hubby was 50/50 on the idea but our little ones really wanted to know. As with carnat they have their preference and not the same sex..


We decided that as this baby is our last and the kids really want to find out that we would give them a gender reveal and make a big fuss about it.. as myblittle ones are aged 6,5,4 this is he first pregnancy that any of them get to really enjoy/remember. I have my scan in two weeks and will be taking the tribe along with me... I'm gonna ask the sonographer to write the gender in a card and il give the card to my sister.. cupcake gender reveal will be done the next day. All three are really excited and have a little wager between them! Whoever guesses right gets to choose the games we play that day!
 
 

 
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Sep 1st, 2017, 16:20 PM   #30
 
We will be finding out as we need to plan on room sharing/ moving etc. We already have a girl and we are in a two bedroom house which is small, so we need to know if we are staying or moving, depending on gender
 
 

 
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