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Apr 30th, 2012, 22:49 PM   #211
 
So sorry Cos, no body would judge you, I can completely understand why you feel this way. I only hope that the feeling pass soon.

I had a friend a few weeks ago who already had three girls and desperately wanted a son, she was told on two separate scans that it was a boy and they were delighted only to find out at the birth that it was infact baby girl no.4, they felt the loss of their much wanted little boy but much like you they love their girls so very much and that will never change.

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May 1st, 2012, 03:11 AM   #212
 
Thanks everyone.
Can't believe it's 3am and I'm still blubbering. Who knew a human could make so many tears???
I hope this feeling eases, it's a lot easier when you know you can try again.
I know it's quite a controversial subject and accept that people will say "as long as its healthy" and "some people can't have any", Ive gotten used to that over the years. As much as those people are right, that's not in question, it doesn't stop me grieving for this little girl that doesn't exist.
It's very difficult for many to understand and I appreciate that but your support has been amazing so thank you all x
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 04:37 AM   #213
 
Still awake, so so tired but can't sleep at all.
My eyes are sore, I have a banging headache, my stomach is aching and I have to be up in 3 hours for work.
Tomorrow will be hard x
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 07:11 AM   #214
 
Ahh Cos i have just caught up, really sorry you havent been blessed with a pink bundle but at least your little man is healthy! I can totally understand your disappointment! With already having DD and with this being our last child i did want a boy so i would have one of each, i was convinced it was a boy and even referred to the baby as a he in my journal, it was a massive shock to be told we were having another girl, tbh i was down about it but never let on to OH etc, over time i have come around to the idea and in fact wouldnt have it any other way now xxx
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 07:57 AM   #215
 
Just popped back to look for your tread as I was sure you would be due your scan around now, so sorry it wasnt the news you wanted I
So wanted it to be a little girl for you too I know what it's like to dream of a girl your whole life . My gran had 9 boys before a girl that scared the life out of me I guess some people do seem to be more prone to one sex, so sorry xxxx
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 08:24 AM   #216
 
sorry to hear this cos. Sending a big hug xxx
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 08:30 AM   #217
 
Oh Cosmic I'm really sorry hun! I know you will love your little man lots, that goes without saying... however I can also imagine the disappointment and know exactly what you mean about wanting the same relationship you had with your own mum. I want a little girl for the same reasons - not necessarily with this baby but definitely at some point, and I would be really sad if it didn't happen.

I really hope you get lots of lovely daughters-in-law and granddaughters in the future and have a similar sort of relationship with them. My mother-in-law has 2 boys and she is incredibly close to OH's brother's girlfriend as she lives with them... Whereas I am really close to OH's nanna who has also been like another mum to me and I go to see her all the time. I know its not a consolation now but hopefully something to look forward to in the future xxx
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 11:16 AM   #218
 
I have to be really honest and say I don't understand gender disappointment. It's just not something I can imagine but now I see from how much it's affecting you that it's very real and it's not about regretting your new little boy at all. So thank you, because I may have been more judgmental if i hadn't heard your story. I hope in time it gets easier for you and that you can have loads of granddaughters and daughter inlaws xx

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May 1st, 2012, 11:19 AM   #219
 
Thank you simone, that's very honest of you.
Maybe this thread will help others?
GD comes with a great deal of guilt, it's a bit of a taboo subject.
You want to feel like everyone else and be happy, it's very hard. That coupled with hormones, not good x
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 11:22 AM   #220
 
Cos I just saw this. I'm gutted for you. You did everything in your power to make a girl, you couldn't have done anything more. life can be so cruel sometimes. Sending you all my love xxx
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 11:37 AM   #221
 
I am sorry you are disappointed hun , i have to say i was judgmental and horrible before reading about you and i apologise . I can see it really is a devastating blow for you and i hope you can find a way to mourn what you dont have and overcome this x x
 
 

 
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May 1st, 2012, 12:41 PM   #222
 
No need to apologise tinytoes, I'd probably be exactly the same xx
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 12:58 PM   #223
 
Reading peoples replies maybe this thread will help a lot of people understand gender disappointment and that's a good thing. Xx
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 13:14 PM   #224
 
I hope so x
 
 
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May 1st, 2012, 13:19 PM   #225
 
Ahhh cos poor you up crying all night massive hugs sweety x im sure you will love this one just as much as the rest but it must be hard to let a dream go x I hope you feel better soon sweets

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