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How to stop worrying and ruining the early stages of pregnancy?

Dec 8th, 2010, 14:29 PM   #1
 
I am so scared of loosing my little bean, I know it is so early on and it could happen at anytime, it is petrifying, I dont know how I am going to cope with the next 10 weeks worrying like this?!
I suffer from depression/anxiety and OCD as it is and came off my meds (against my psychiatrists advise) to get pregnant so it is getting quite hard dealing witht he worry!
How do you put it out of your head, when you hear so many horror stories of people having misscarages?
 
 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 14:35 PM   #2
 
It's a tough one hun as it is a really worrying time! Just try and relax as much as possible and stay possitive xxx
 
 

 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 14:39 PM   #3
 
Being told to just relax is of no benefit is it lol

Everyone deals with it in their own way hun and you are going to have to find your way.....

Try not to read the horror stories - keep your mind active on other things - take exercise such as swimming etc to mentaly simulate yourself.

Please keep your doctor appointments and accept the other help they give you (group therapy, councilling etc) due to hormones you may find stages of the pregnancy hard if you are used to coping on your medication. Also use your support network - your partner, friends, parents the people on here etc

Good luck sweety xxx
 
 

 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 14:41 PM   #4
 
I am just a nervous wreck at the moment.
Is there anything I can do to help little bean stick?
 
 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 14:48 PM   #5
 
What also worrys me is that I may have had a leutal phase defect, I spoke to the gp about it and she said it was not a concern at this point as I had recently had the implant removed and she advised to just let (1st cycle being a 7-8 day leutal phase, 2nd being a 9-10 day leutal phase and then pregnant on 3rd cycle!) nature take its course... which it has. But I am so scare now that I may loose it because of the defect? Or would that have happened already?
 
 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 14:55 PM   #6
 
There is nothing that you can do to make sure it sticks hun...if there was I think 99% of people on here would be doing it!

As for the leutal phase defect - I have no knowledge - your best bet would be your Doctor or (maybe) Midwife. Remember if you are not happy with an answer from your doctor you can always see another one and ask the same questions. x
 
 

 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 15:55 PM   #7
 
Don't read any of the sad stories, it really makes it seem more likely than it is. Also what helped(/helps - doesn't get much less worrying after the 12 weeks tbh) me (bit weird perhaps) is thinking about people who fall pregnant by accident when they really don't want a baby, even if they're not careful and taking half the precautions we will be, their beans stick like glue don't they.
 
 

 
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Dec 8th, 2010, 23:43 PM   #8
 
I set myself little milestones which helped alot! Getting to 6 weeks which is when I had a mc, then getting to 8 weeks, 10 weeks then 12 week scan, 16 weeks then started to relax after 20 weeks. It is very scary being pregnant but I'm sure your be ok x x
 
 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 00:42 AM   #9
 
It's true, no amount of telling yourself u must relax does it! After I had my mc I couldn't relax or enjoy the pregnancy at all. I found brown blood when I was shopping @ Tesco and it took me forever in this pregnancy to go shop there again in case it happened again! Silly?! All I know is, what helped me is knowing each day that turns into a week, ur little bean is getting stronger and more comfy in it's home and the closer you get to 12 weeks ur chances of a mc are reduced.

Obviously miscarriage is something that is far too common but accepting it's something that sadly you have no control over will be a start to not being so scared. It terrifying when you want it to much but I had to think if it doesn't work this time, it wasn't meant to be. As hard as it would be.

Hope it all works out for you and 12 weeks hurries up for you. Lex xxxx
 
 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 00:52 AM   #10
 
I think it helps to keep in mind that you are much more likely to go on and have a healthy baby than to have a miscarriage.

I was quite a mess early on, but thankfully I was able to shake the worry. I've come to the realization that whatever will will be, will be. My job is to provide the best environment possible for the little bean, and then everything else I leave up to a higher power (God, nature, whatever else fits here!).
 
 

 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 00:56 AM   #11
 
I suffer from OCD and am finding it very difficult at the moment as I have NO control what so ever over this! I saw a banner in a garden center that was for Christmas and the only bit you could see through the packaging was MC and I thought OMG is that a sign and now I can not stop thinking it!
 
 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 01:09 AM   #12
 
RACH!! Firstly take a deep breath! Secondly think about how lucky you are to get your BFP cause right now u are luckiest girl in the world!!

I suffer from really bad anxiety hun, and beleive me its so hard to defeat, the point is to stop trying to beat it and let those feelings be there. You cant change anything and worrying will not help. This man is amazing visit his site and get his book off ebay!!!! Theres no ads and he has had anxiety for 10 years and has learnt a great method www.anxietynomore.co.uk with the aid of NO MEDS!!! let me kno what you think - mycopy is WORN OUT!!!!!!!!! xx
 
 

 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 01:10 AM   #13
 
You could just take that as Merry Christmas
 
 

 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 01:14 AM   #14
 
Thats so true tipper - you see what you want to see,
 
 

 
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Dec 9th, 2010, 01:23 AM   #15
 
Just hang in there! Xx My first appointment really helped to calm my nerves as it is one thing to just read some lines on a stick, quite another to see a little bean floating around and/or see the heartbeat.
 
 

 
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