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Rach beattie
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Sep 25th, 2017, 13:05 PM   #1
 
Went for what should have been my 12 weeks scan today to find out the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. Have to go back next week for an internal scan then they will give me a tablet to start the process. Will it just pass itself as it is only 6 weeks?
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 13:12 PM   #2
 
Hi, Im so sorry for your loss, I went though exactly the same thing in june, I went in at 11+5 for my scan and found out it has stopped growing at 6 weeks.
Two days later I started spotting, I opted for the D&C as I wanted to have mine tested. That was booked in for 4 days later, by that time It was starting to happen naturally but I still had the procedure.
The actual MC Before the procedure, wasn't too bad, It was like really strong period pains every 5 mins and the blood was thick and heavy, I don't know if thats what you want to hear? But it will pass, just keep a eye on the clots and if you're worried about anything get yourself to hospital x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 13:21 PM   #3
 
Hi rachel i hope youre doing ok and so sorry again youre going through it. I found out at 10+3 that baby stopped growing at 8+3. Had no signs. Night before mva started to bleed a little which was a bit heavier the morning of mva. I still had procedure. Had no cramps at all and have now stopped bleeding 4 days after mva. Heavy-ish day one of procedure then light for 2 days with day 4 (today) pretty much stopped apart from tiny bit of pinkish dc when i wipe. I opted for mva as read sometimes have to have this as mm doesnt always work. Procedure was ok and not uncomfortable...but we are all different! We needed closure hence opting for mva as wasnt sure how long it would take. Midwife told me a lot of women start to naturally mc once theyve heard heart stopped. Look after yourself x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 13:37 PM   #4
 
Like Melly said... I started to bleed 2 days after I found out, I'm convinced its becuase my body knew to let go,
Personally I didn't like the procedure, but I have a retroverted uterus and the procedure took twice as long and there were some complications, Knowing that now I wont go for the procedure again unless I can be knocked out! I really hope you get your closure soon. Its such a disgusting thing to have to go through.
Makesure you take time for yourself to cry and be bitter at the world. Its what helped me x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 14:23 PM   #5
 
Thanks girls it's just the unexpected isn't it x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 14:35 PM   #6
 
Its horrible, Remember you're not expected to be strong, So don't put on a brave face if you're not feeling it! xx
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 15:35 PM   #7
 
Lulla bell is right. Ive tried to put on brave face but have suffered later with being overly tearful. I think its harder when you havent told people like i hadnt as you almost have to pretend youre ok. I just have a good cry on way to work and then on and off in the evenings. I do feel better for it though afterwards.

Lulla bell.....did you ever have any night sweats after your mc's? Ive been having them pretty much since mc over night. Wake up several times feeling drenched! Urghh!

Rachel - enjoy a soak in the bath and a hug x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 15:57 PM   #8
 
I didn't no, I felt nothing, It was like I had no hormones at all!
We had told a fair few people as we had a scan at 6 weeks and we saw a heartbeat, Turns out it stopped growing the day after..... Just my luck!
I hated all the sympathy I was getting, People kept asking me how I was doing every 5 mins, it was driving me insane.
But Im glad some people knew, So they knew why I was being a miserable bitch x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 16:01 PM   #9
 
I saw heartbeat at 6 + 5. I dont think i could cope with people feeling sorry for me but having said that, at times it would be good to speak to a good friend. This forum has been hugely helpful from start to finish. You can be as narky as you want here lol. X
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 17:14 PM   #10
 
Thanks girls for the support it's just so crazy. It's not something u ever think will happen to u is it? I'm scared incase it happens again but I guess that's just life. Getting a Chinese and an early night I think x
 
 
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Sep 25th, 2017, 18:04 PM   #11
 
Sounds hood hun. Maybe a glass of vino too perhaps? Take care xx
 
 
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Sep 26th, 2017, 11:35 AM   #12
 
Feeling so impatient today just want my body to catch up and start the process. I no I only found out yesterday but I feel like my body is tricking me as not an ounce of pain still sore boobs. I feel like the longer it goes on it gives me hope even though I know it is over.
 
 
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Sep 26th, 2017, 12:11 PM   #13
 
I felt the same. No cramps or bleeding. I thought theyd made a mistaken. I opted for mva as wanted it over to get some closure. Glad i did really. Im now cd5 and hoping to.ovulate in next 7-9 days all being well. Had tearful day yesterday as should have been 12 weeks and telling people. Feeling a bit more hopeful today. Its an emotional rollacoaster. Youll go through lots of different emotions over next few days but things will get a bit easier in time. I hope the process is not too drawn out for you x
 
 
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Sep 26th, 2017, 16:10 PM   #14
 
Melly I'm seriously considering doing the same. Monday already feels so far away and after reading stories online it seems to be quite bad if it happens itself. Did they put u to sleep melly to have the procedure x
 
 
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Sep 26th, 2017, 16:39 PM   #15
 
Hi rach, how are you feeling today? Hope youre okay? I had mva done with just a local anaesthetic as wasnt keen on GA. The only slightly uncomfortable bit was when she put speculum in and that was ok.it was because my cervix was "around the corner!". Couldnt feel procedure. But we are all different so others might feel cramps apparently which resemble strong period cramps for a few seconds towards the end of procedure.....i didnt so guess i was fortunate! (On some level?!?!) Have had intermittent light bleeding since and a few night sweats which i hear is normal as hormones leaving body etc. I chose mva as i thought we could ttc quicker than if mm or natural as you are not sure how long it will take to pass.also wanted some closure. Today (day 5 after procedure) having light bleed and a few af type cramps. Bleeding been a little heavier (not much more though) but think thats because ive just done a 6k run. Im going to do a hpt 1 week post procedure (fri) to see if lines are fainter and then maybe start to do opks early next week as really hoping i will ovulate 10-14 days post procedure. Ive done a ridiculous amount of reading about fertility, ttc, bleeding duration, ovulation etc etc i have found it a distraction which is bizzarre! Happy to chat anytime....i find being connected to others in similar situation really helpful as not told family, work or friends.its been hard pretending everything is ok at times. Look after yourself my dear x
 
 
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