I lost my first baby last june at 22 weeks. Became pregnant in September for the second time. I told myself they wouldnt let it happen again, or would do everything they could to save my baby this time. After having a cervical length scan at 16 weeks, my consultant told me i was at no more risk of losing this baby than any other "normal" pregnant woman.
At 19+3 after bleeding, they discovered my cervix had completely opened, and said that i would have a miscarriage soon. 24 hours passed and nothing happened, i was in hospital, no pain no more bleeding. I could feel my baby kicking and moving, and just thought how cruel it was to be told that, but still be able to feel him move.
The next day the consultant i saw at the scan said they could try and put an emergency stitch in to close my cervix, it didnt work. But i could still feel him moving so i stayed positive, and kept my bed at an angle to take pressure off my cervix.
A few days later i knew it was over. I hadnt felt him move all day. I got up to go toilet and i started bleeding quite heavily, i started having contractions, and my waters went. But then the contractions stopped. this was about 11pm. over night my temperature started to go up. Turns out i went sceptic. I had my little boy at 9.50 the next morning. But then had to go down for an emergency D&C because they couldnt deliver the placenta.
I lost 2L of blood during the D&C, and nearly had to have a blood transfusion, thankfully i didnt have to have that done. Eventually we got time to spend with our little boy after a 3 hour operation.
With everything thats happened i just dont know how i feel. im devastated of course. but i still wasnt over losing my first baby, and now this has happened. the only thing that was getting me through losing faye was being pregnant again.
I just feel like me, my family and most of all my two babies have been totally let down by the doctors who told me it would all be ok.

Oh my goodness, so sorry for what you have been through, as if going through that once wasnt enough

thinking of you xxxxxx

Oh claire that is so terribly heartbreaking I don't know what to say. I can see completely how you feel let down by the medical people around you, that it should happen once must be devastating but twice is inconceivable. I'm so so sorry for your losses but words really don't seem to be enough.

Oh honey, I'm so so sorry

I lost my baby boy at 30 weeks gestation, he managed a live birth but we lost him 2 days later I cant even begin to imagine losing a second baby at such a stage. If you ever need a chat/rant whatever just PM me anytime

I too felt and still feel very let down be the medical professionals that took care of us, I'm still considering taking action actually. I have discussed me concerns with a number of other professionals who agree there was negligence in my case. I'm just having difficulty as I don't really want to drag the whole thing back up but I feel if it prevents this happening to someone else then its well worth it.

Take care xxxx

oh i am so so sorry hun i dont know what else to say you must be devastated, i think you have been so let down and should look into why your cervix wasnt stitched in the first place

Oh GOd how awful I hope you will find the strength to get through this.

Oh Claire what a heartbreaking situation for you I am so sorry for your losses. Thinking of you and annoyed with the doctors for not helping you more.

I just dont know what to say but please try and be strong xxxx

I'm truly sorry to read your story, what a terrible thing to go through. I really hope you get through this xxx

Am so sorry, sending lots of hugs, poor lady xxxxxx Thinking of you xxxx

Gosh Claire - you poor, poor lady

I hope and pray that if you do decide to try again the NHS go above and beyond the call of duty to keep you and your bub safe.

Once is heartbreaking but twice is just too awful for words.

Keep strong

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How sad xx

I'm so sorry for what you've been through. x x

I am so sorry to hear of your pain and sadness you have went through, I myself have had two miscarriages but both under 6 weeks and in a way I was always thinking it was easier that way than to go on and get more attached if that was no doubt going to happen. My friend went full term and found out when she was in labour at 9 months the baby had passed and I felt so sorry for her.. no words can ease or help the way you are feeling but I know eventually you will get stronger and those scars will mend. Sometimes god isnt fair to those who have been through enough.

Take care xxx

I'm so terribly sorry hon, cannot imagine what your going through, but hope you get all the love and support you need.x

Claire I am so sorry for both of your losses!! Once is enough for anybody to have to go through!! Really hope you find the strength and support to get through. Speaking for experience,my little girl was stillborn at 24 weeks in September, after your first loss did your consultant not put a plan of care in place,I was led to believe this is offered to ladies who suffer 2nd timester loss? I have mine in
Place for next pregnancy, like you,cervical length scans every 2 weeks from bfp and stitch at 12-14, I'm so upset for you that this doesn't seem to be the case for you,these hospitals play god with ours and our babies lives. Sorry for long post just so so sad for you!!
Feel free to pm me for anything if you want ,xxx