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AbbyJ
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really freaked out by what my DD said last night

May 4th, 2012, 13:18 PM   #1
 
Last night my 6 yr old daughter was getting undressed, she was stood in just her underwear when she suddenly said " I know where Sophie's tickley spot is, it's here." and pointed to her privates. I exclaimed something about that not being nice and poor dd went from grinnning happily to looking like she thought she was in trouble so I tried to hide my shock, but I was really freaked out by it. I asked her who told her that and she said that Sophie did (Sophie is a girl in her class at school). I told her that it's not nice to touch or talk about other peoples private parts and left it at that, but I'm worried..do you think this is normal or could it indicate abuse? I don't know Sophie or her parents, should I mention it to the class teacher?
 
 
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May 4th, 2012, 13:23 PM   #2
 
Ahem it may be nth really just girls talking but I would mention it to her teacher to keep an eye on them maybe? Probably the teacher knows Sophie's personality and the family and will be able to reassure you somehow or raise any concern of she spots anything weird.
 
 

 
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May 4th, 2012, 14:40 PM   #3
 
I'm sure it's nothing but it really threw me! I will have a quiet word with the teacher
 
 
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May 4th, 2012, 14:44 PM   #4
 
I'm not surprised you was freaked out, it does sound a bit suspect, why would a 6 year old know that? I would definitely speak to the teacher x x
 
 

 
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May 4th, 2012, 15:32 PM   #5
 
I don't want to cause trouble for the parents though if it is innocent, but i will speak to her teacher just in case. You just never know do you.the whole thing has made me really uncomfortable. I didn't know how to explain to her why it wasn't right, and I didn't like the look on her face after she told me
 
 
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May 4th, 2012, 22:25 PM   #6
 
i dont like the sound of it either i'd be concerned too. But something similar freaked me out yesterday my friend (who is very intelligent btw and has a fantastic job) has taught her 20 month old to say boys have a penis and girls have vagina's and he actually says it. she put it on facebook really happy about it and i was gobsmacked. Is it just me being over the top or is that a bit wrong?
 
 

 
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May 4th, 2012, 22:34 PM   #7
 
I'd mention it to the teacher too. It could all be innocent talk but its a strange thing to say.


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i dont like the sound of it either i'd be concerned too. But something similar freaked me out yesterday my friend (who is very intelligent btw and has a fantastic job) has taught her 20 month old to say boys have a penis and girls have vagina's and he actually says it. she put it on facebook really happy about it and i was gobsmacked. Is it just me being over the top or is that a bit wrong?
I wonder if he actually understands what he's saying.
AJ knew early on he had a willy and mammy didnt (I dont think it was 20mths though) It then took him a while to get that all boys had willies and girls had lady bums.
 
 

 
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May 4th, 2012, 23:06 PM   #8
 
my daughter knew since she was 2 that boys have willy's and girls have tuppence's but i dont think it is wright to adveriste it on facebook its wrong really wrong and for a child to know the right terms is a little weird for me.

As for your daughter i would be concerned i have asked my mother who is a SW for a childrens team, she said to tell you to tell the teacher, but just explain that its how your daughter told you and showed you and its concerned you that the other little girl knew this and was also able to teach your daughter it as well and that they should please just keep an eye on them both and for it to be meantioned to the girls parents but for yours and your daughters details to be witheld as you dont want anything coming back on you. x x x
 
 
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May 5th, 2012, 09:06 AM   #9
 
I spoke to her teacher yesterday and told her what happened, she was a little taken aback by it but she said some little girls do find 'that spot' quite early, but she agreed it was a bit unusual and thanked me for telling her. She said she would have a little word with Sophie and also her parents, but wouldn't say who brought it to her attention.
As for the Penis & Vagina thing, that is NOT normal at all!! My little girls call theirs a wee wee, and they call their little brother's a willy, but to say anything about it on facebook is just..weird!!
 
 
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May 10th, 2012, 15:21 PM   #10
 
I totally agree with you however I'm a teacher and we use a programme to help us teach personal and social education. In year one there is a lesson where you are suppose to teach the children the correct names penis, vagina, breast, anus. A lot of us teachers felt uneasy about it but the local authority insist that 5 and 6 year olds should know the correct termingology!
 
 

 
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May 10th, 2012, 15:37 PM   #11
 
hmm, sometimes I think our education authorities are trying to do away with childhood innocence all together! It's bad enough that they start sex education at 10 years old, totally unnecessary imo, in fact I think in some cases it probably even encourages them to start early!
 
 
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May 18th, 2012, 11:02 AM   #12
 
I think it's worth risking the little girls parents being a bit embarrassed if they're innocent because if that's not the case imagine what you could have stopped! Sounds like a very odd thing for a child to say to me.
 
 

 
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Sep 22nd, 2015, 18:12 PM   #14
 
It's alarming how young children are when they learn things nowadays. Even without fully understanding what they know. I think you did the right thing to talk to the teacher. Seems like you handled the situation really well.
 
 
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Sep 22nd, 2015, 18:19 PM   #15
 
i think you did the right thing in speaking to the teacher. In regards to not knowing what to say to your daughter, i would advise you to look up the underwear rule. we have just started to introduce this to our son as he has just started school.
 
 
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