Oh why did i think it was a good idea to look at Jakes (14) texts

somethings a mother just doesnt wanna know

Ok so one message saidanother saidSo now what the hell do i do with this info ...I dont want him to know ive been looking and have talked about safe sex ect is there much else i can do ...other then tell all the mums round here to lock up there girls

I know its not funny I just not sure what to do

 

 

Holy. God.
I was bad at 14 but I didn't get bad texts (that'll be because mobile phones weren't out then)!
The teens I see know far too much as well.
This is what I would do: say to your 14yr old: Go and get your mobile phone - I want to see it. You'll get some protesting of course but say that you've seen things in magazines about kids getting texts that they shouldn't and then read what's on there (provided they aren't deleted) - if they are still there then you can raise your concerns?
Another (not so nice point) consideration is: Do you know how old this other person is that's sending the texts? they may be older than your 14 year old.
Its part of your parental right to know what's going on, I'm afraid that the right to privacy doesn't come into it and it's probably a good thing you found out about those texts.
it could be harmless (extreme) flirting but you're best off knowing that there's such sexual stuff being said at such a young age.
Maybe the others have different ideas from me, I'm not a mum and so don't have any parental experience, however, i have seen how they go off the rails when control is lost.
Good luck and I hope the girls here can give you some good advice. xx

 

Run away?

Bring up the subject of safe sex again but it could just him putting on a big front to his mates?

 

Yar, he might just be sexting. No physical stuff involved.

 

The girl is yr 8 and he is yr 9 so she is 12/13 I hate to think he is pressuring her ... Though when i read on she finished with him bcos she is scared ...yet he is meetin her tomorrow to talk ...he as lied cos he said he was going to play football i hate being lied to

 

Yeah maybe ...I had him at 14 and know what 14yr boys are like , I would of hoped ive drilled in safe sex into him ...I will try get his phone but the bettings theyve gone as there was only messages from last few days on there ..127txts sent in 3 day !!

 

Oooh 12/13? Maybe just tell him you know, and you've caught him lying! her parents might go bonkers if they hear that.

I don't think I even knew what W***ing was at 12!?!?!

 

God she's so young

Tbh then I'd confront him with the phone

 

Exactly they mature a lot in 1 yr at that age ..he is one of oldest in the yr so if she is one of the youngest then there would be nearly 2 yrs between them

 

could you just give him bromide or something that'll solve all the probs.

 

I only know her age cos ive just gone thru his FB , I was told he was seeing a bad un that smokes and to see her age makes me sad

 

Bromide ??????

 

It's what they give military lads to surpress the sex drive when they are away

 

Wonder where I could get that from ...all i need is a horny teenager in my house at the moment NOT !!!

 

everything's available on t'interweb!! No that's a joke - not being held responsible for any bad side effects lol.

Think you'll just have to tell him you've seen the phone and suffer the consequences mrs, at least you can have your say and relay your concerns. And give him a good boot in the arse and tell him to wait til he's fifteen for that kind of carry on