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Anyone else pregnant after a loss?

Aug 22nd, 2014, 12:12 PM   #1
 
Sorry about the sensitive topic, I'm just feeling very lonely at the minute! I am finding it hard to get excited about this pregnancy due to my previous loss at 8 weeks (only found out at scan after previously seeing a heartbeat at 6 weeks). Is anyone else going through this or am I just weird lol. I feel like I am just waiting for something bad to happen and can't think past one day at a time xx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 12:18 PM   #2
 
Hey hun. Sorry your feeling like this. I'm exactly the same. I'm 10 weeks this weekend but mc'd last year. I've already had 3 scans which show baby is fine and healthy but it still doesn't stop the worry xxx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 12:18 PM   #3
 
I had a mc in June and I'm now 7 weeks pg - had a dating scan last Wednesday as I hadn't had a normal period in between and showed a blob with a flickering bh at 169. But I'm still terrified that something bad might happen, plus I feel pretty crappy with symptoms right now so feel like my life has been taken away and all I can do is feel rubbish and worry.

But I was told mc risk reduced to 5% after heartbeat so I'm trying to relax a bit more but it's very hard but I'm trying to think positive now- this will be it!

I'm sorry for your loss, you are definitely not alone here and I'm sending baby dust your way x
 
 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 12:20 PM   #4
 
Thank you and sorry for your loss, I have had three scans too and it only reassures me for about 5 seconds! Then as soon as I get home the worry starts again Every twinge sets me off and I'm constantly running to the loo, it really takes the innocence out of pregnancy doesn't it xx

I see you live in Newcastle - I'm about 20 minutes away in Northumberland
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 12:21 PM   #5
 
Thanks prettypee and sorry for your loss, it's so stressful and definitely hard to relax and stay positive

Here's hoping we all have happy and healthy pregnancies this time round xx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 13:35 PM   #6
 
Hi hun.
you are not weird at all.
I dont think you ever got over having a mc.
My 3rd pregnancy was mc.
I have had 3 more children since then. I am now 9 weeks preg with baby number 6. I feel scared. I look at the tissue as soon as I wipe myself. I hope and pray everyday that I dont mc. It may be selfish because I already have 5 children but netherless it will break my heart. So whether u have children or not or had previous mc or not , we will always worry. So pls dont ever think ur weird. That's mother instints kicking in right there.
All the best to you.
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 13:55 PM   #7
 
Thank you, sorry for your loss, I am exactly the same with checking the toilet roll, it's so nerve wracking!!

It's not selfish at all and regardless of how many children you have it is still a devastating loss, I get annoyed when people say to me 'at least you have a daughter' - it makes no difference xx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 15:11 PM   #8
 
Hi I have 2 children (11 & 9 years old) then my DH and suffered 7 early miscarriages (6th Ectopic) and then went on to have our beautiful daughter born sleeping in Dec 13 and now 9 weeks and 5 days pregnant. All is going well and have had 6 scans up to now and going to be having them weekly (apart from first two weeks Oct as i'l be in Turkey lol) and every time I've been in for a scan so far I automatically expect them to say something is wrong and them first few seconds before the nurse turns the monitor around is awful!! I think it's only natural to panic like this. Also going to the toilet constantly but not to wee just to knicker check for blood, I honestly think when your pregnant after a loss you will never truly calm down until you have your newborn crying baby in your arms..... Then the new mummy panic begins haha.
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 15:28 PM   #9
 
hi honey.
first of all, i'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
i haven't experienced a miscarraige like these other girls,
but i have had a full term baby which i ended up losing due to undiagnosed genetic problems (can't be picked up!).
so in terms of milestones, yours will hopefully be much easier to get to, and quicker for you too.
take each day as it comes, losing a baby is so very difficult and cruel on us all, no matter what the gestation.
it's completely understandable that you feeling anxious about it all!
as prettypee said, you're definitely not alone. i am hoping you have friends and family who may understand, if they are aware of course, and will try their best to help you through it.
you also have all of us crazies to come along and chat to!
remember, worrying will get you nowhere.
as much as you can think positive, every day you both get through is a good one.
i am sure you are right in that it does take the innocence away from your pregnancy, and sadly that's something you can't change in the fact that you have those worries - they are natural, even more so after experiencing your loss.
i hope that your daughter is a sweet reminder that you can have healthy babies, and we're all here hoping that this one turns out to be too!
if you need to pay for private scans, then you feel free to do that honey.

i really thought i would struggle with this pregnancy, but i have taken each day as it comes, knowing that whatever worry i have will not go anywhere until this baby is safely in my arms, but also knowing that sitting here feeling anxious about it all is going to make everything ten times worse - and then i would regret not enjoying it when they (hopefully) do arrive safe and sound.

you are not alone, at all. if you ever need to talk, or cry, we are all here for you. those that have had mc's, mmc's, babies born sleeping, neonatal losses as myself, and sometimes even those who have no idea what it feels like will be around to give you a virtual hug.

relax as much as you can, enjoy every day you are still pregnant, and i'll see you back here with a gorgeous, healthy newborn baby very soon, i am sure!

all my love
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 15:52 PM   #10
 
Thank you both and so very sorry to hear of your losses, it must have been utterly devastating to say goodbye to your beautiful babies and I wish you all the luck with your current pregnancies xx

I know exactly what you mean about those awful few seconds before they turn the monitor around, I keep expecting them to turn the machine off and say those awful words again and it's like reliving it all over again, and the constant checking for blood too, it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one who goes through those same emotions.

Thanks for your kind words, it really does mean a lot xx

Mummymouse I'm from Northumberland too xx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 15:54 PM   #11
 
Oohh where abouts? Pm me if you don't wanna write it here.
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 16:14 PM   #12
 
I've messaged you, small world

Thanks again to everyone for their reassurance, it's nice to know I'm not alone (not that I would wish it on anyone but you know what I mean) xx
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 16:33 PM   #13
 
 
 

 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 16:38 PM   #14
 
Hi cherryabs,
I actually haven't posted about my pregnancy yet in this section because of the same reason, being scared! I miscarried in August 2012 fell pregnant again and then lost our baby boy at 19 weeks due to fetal hemochromatosis which we were informed is rare. I'm currently 11 weeks, I had a scan at 9 weeks and have another one in 2 weeks and I'm just hoping everything is ok. My symptoms seem to have gone too which I know can be normal but it's making me a bit nervous. I'll be starting on a drip treatment at 14 weeks and will be having scans every 4 weeks so I'm just really praying baby is/will be ok. I think it's hard not to worry when we've experienced loss in pregnancy. wishing you all the best in your pregnancy xxx
 
 
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Aug 22nd, 2014, 17:33 PM   #15
 
Hi, I know what you mean, I dithered about even creating an account because it felt like I was tempting fate! Sorry to hear of your losses, and I wish you a healthy pregnancy this time round. I see people on my Facebook feed excitedly announcing their pregnancies and putting up scan pictures and I feel sad that I have lost all that innocence, but here's hoping it all works out well this time xx
 
 

 
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