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Jul 24th, 2016, 18:28 PM   #211
 
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His job is a big part of the problem. I've been on at him for ages to find a new job, I think I've been putting too much pressure on him which isn't helping. But him being away so much isn't good for anyone. I don't want him to miss out on the kids, or for them to think badly of him when they're older cos he was never around.

Glad summer is doing ok out of interest, what are the exercises? Belle has tongue tie, I've mentioned it to various hv's and the gp but they just brushed me off. She has pretty bad lip tie tho, it looks quite red and sore sometimes and she doesn't have much movement in her top lip. Think I'll speak to the gp again when I'm in next week. Xxx

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She is ok today had a crazy night last night but think it was just her being fussy. You could ask to have it cut but around here the waiting list is really long and I'm breast feeding well trying. Had continuousprobles but hoping it will improve now. If you want it cut you could go privately like us. I used the association of tongue tie, they have a list of those close to you or ask your hv for a clinic they recommend. The excerises are to stop the tongue tie reforming so
1. Put ur finger in her mouth to the roof then when she suck you pull it it to make a popping sound
2. Put finger under the tongue and move left to right so her tongue moves.
3. Get her to poke her tongue out.
4. Put two fingers under her tongue and lift
She said we have to do them every 3hrs even through night.

Even if we was not breast feeding I'd have it done as it can cause problems with speech and dentists also say to have it done as if your tongue is restricted you can't get the food around therefore causing plaque.

Some of your babies are doing great in weight gain. Summer is 6.5 weeks and weighs 10lb. She was 7.3 at birth x
 
 
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Jul 25th, 2016, 09:33 AM   #212
 
How is she with you doing thr exercises? I do think that may have been part of the reason I found breastfeeding so painful with her. Still gutted I gave up after two weeks I'll speak to someone about the tongue and lip tie this week, see if we can get something sorted. I just worry about the lack of movement she seems to have and how it might affect her in the future with speech and things. I hope you don't mind me asking, but how did you have to pay to go private?

I had a good chat with OH over the weekend. He totally broke down, which he has NEVER done before. I've only seen him cry once when he was really poorly with a collapsed lung, so it was a complete shock to see him like that. He eventually opened up to me and said the bit that really got to him was when I said about him losing his temper with Oscar so much and having so little patience with him. I know he can be hard work, but when he doesn't see him much, I'd expect him to have more patience than me. He went on to say he's worried about his temper and mood lately and doesn't know what's causing it. He also said he's forgetting things a lot recently, and could barely remember thee argument we'd just had. He said he used to want to get up in a morning, but now he doesn't. He was so upset, I felt awful. I've tried persuading him to go to the doctors, try and get a bit of time off work and just have a break. I think it's just all a bit too much for him. He's constantly away, which I moan and moan about, but forget how it affects him too. He seemed much brighter yesterday and not as snappy, so hopefully getting it all out and having a good chat has helped. I'll just need to make sure I keep an eye on him.
I wasn't expecting any of that at all. If I'm totally honest, I thought we were going to end up saying it's over....thank god we didn't!!! Xxxx

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Jul 25th, 2016, 11:31 AM   #213
 
I don't see a July baby thread-anyone mind if I join? My baby boy is 18 days old xx
 
 

 
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Jul 25th, 2016, 11:56 AM   #214
 
Congratulations hope you're both doing well.

There is a July and August thread in here somewhere, but you're more than welcome to join here too
 
 

 
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Jul 25th, 2016, 13:40 PM   #215
 
Hi girls! How's everyone doing?
Jenni it sounds like you may have turned a corner with your OH which is great.

Well my little chunk is now 11 weeks and weighs 13lb 6oz. She was 8lb 9oz at birth so really good weight gain for ebf.
She won't take a bottle in any shape or form so think we will just move on to sippy cups eventually.

She's such a lovely little girl, so content, only has about 6 feeds over 24 hours which seems strange as my son fed a lot more but it's obviously not doing her any harm.

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Jul 25th, 2016, 14:49 PM   #216
 
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How is she with you doing thr exercises? I do think that may have been part of the reason I found breastfeeding so painful with her. Still gutted I gave up after two weeks I'll speak to someone about the tongue and lip tie this week, see if we can get something sorted. I just worry about the lack of movement she seems to have and how it might affect her in the future with speech and things. I hope you don't mind me asking, but how did you have to pay to go private?

I had a good chat with OH over the weekend. He totally broke down, which he has NEVER done before. I've only seen him cry once when he was really poorly with a collapsed lung, so it was a complete shock to see him like that. He eventually opened up to me and said the bit that really got to him was when I said about him losing his temper with Oscar so much and having so little patience with him. I know he can be hard work, but when he doesn't see him much, I'd expect him to have more patience than me. He went on to say he's worried about his temper and mood lately and doesn't know what's causing it. He also said he's forgetting things a lot recently, and could barely remember thee argument we'd just had. He said he used to want to get up in a morning, but now he doesn't. He was so upset, I felt awful. I've tried persuading him to go to the doctors, try and get a bit of time off work and just have a break. I think it's just all a bit too much for him. He's constantly away, which I moan and moan about, but forget how it affects him too. He seemed much brighter yesterday and not as snappy, so hopefully getting it all out and having a good chat has helped. I'll just need to make sure I keep an eye on him.
I wasn't expecting any of that at all. If I'm totally honest, I thought we were going to end up saying it's over....thank god we didn't!!! Xxxx

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Glad you guys sored it having a baby can be so stressfulesp if you already have children.
I paid 140 and used a website called association of tongue. You just put where you live and it cos up with those that do your area then you can call check their availability and price. They then come to your house and swaddle baby and do it. I'm not going to ly it really was horrific. My hubby and I both cried as did baby of course poor girl. I never want to see her go through something like that again. Depending on how bad the tongue tie it is depends on if it needs doing and if it will have an affect on her speech nd language development. It can also cause problems with their teeth so alot of dentists would recommend it being done. X
 
 
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Jul 25th, 2016, 16:21 PM   #217
 
Oh I can imagine. It sounds awful but sometimes it is for the best. The tongue tie isn't so bad (I don't think it is anyway), I'm more worried about the lip tie. I'll see what the hv or doc say this week and decide what to do. My baby cousin managed to cut his tongue tie himself recently at 5 months! He shoves his whole fist in his mouth and somehow caused it to split. It bled a little then healed pretty quickly. Xxx

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Jul 26th, 2016, 04:04 AM   #218
 
Yes hers bled alittle bit. Hopefully they will give some advice on weather it needs cutting or not. How is it with the hubby now?x
 
 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 07:33 AM   #219
 
*yawn* Kara was very unsettled last night. Don't think we got more than 30 minutes sleep at a time and only a couple in total. OH was getting more and more cross as he has to go to work. I hope that both girls take a nap together this afternoon...
 
 

 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 18:31 PM   #220
 
Went to my first latch on group today and have left totally demoralised. I know I have an overabundance of breast milk/fast let down and have been following the NCT advice to combat this. All I wanted was a bit of reassurance, instead I got that I need to be careful because it could mean her weight gain is superficial because of the constant feeding I'm doing and that she's probably not getting enough hindmilk even though her poo's are yellow.

I honestly don't think they get this problem very often or maybe its worse than I thought because they genuinly looked shocked at how much milk I was producing and what Thea has to do to keep up.

Wish I hadn't bothered and now feel like total crap and it further cemented my worries about feeding in public as when professionals look concerned about how a baby is feeding what on earth are other people going to think.
 
 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 21:02 PM   #221
 
Sorry it didn't go well Stephy - what are the issues you're having?
To be honest if her nappies are good and she's gaining weight and not dropping Centiles I wouldn't worry too much.

I have a fast let down and I did have a massive oversupply but this calmed down once she settled herself into a routine of feeding (she doesn't ever cluster and is a super efficient feeder)

My let down can be a bit extreme especially if she's gone a bit longer between feeds so when possible I feed laying on my back and it gives her more control.
Seriously my milks shot about 8 feet across the room when she's pulled of to get over choking lol

I wouldn't worry about what other people think - I've had comments on what a guzzler my little girl is and how loud she feeds sometimes but I think people just say it sometimes for something to say as they're unsure what to say when there's a baby attached to my boob lol

Keep going Hun - you sound determined and Thea is obviously getting what she needs from you x


 
 

 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 21:11 PM   #222
 
MWs and HV all said they liked my LO's noisy feeding, lol.

She has been super unsettled today, I didn't get an afternoon nap and toddler has been quite stroppy too, so not the most fun day. Did get them to a playground this morning though, which was nice. Definitely good to be able to take off my enthusiastic happy face now that toddler's gone to bed! Now bring on the chocolate!!
 
 

 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 22:39 PM   #223
 
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Sorry it didn't go well Stephy - what are the issues you're having?
To be honest if her nappies are good and she's gaining weight and not dropping Centiles I wouldn't worry too much.

I have a fast let down and I did have a massive oversupply but this calmed down once she settled herself into a routine of feeding (she doesn't ever cluster and is a super efficient feeder)

My let down can be a bit extreme especially if she's gone a bit longer between feeds so when possible I feed laying on my back and it gives her more control.
Seriously my milks shot about 8 feet across the room when she's pulled of to get over choking lol

I wouldn't worry about what other people think - I've had comments on what a guzzler my little girl is and how loud she feeds sometimes but I think people just say it sometimes for something to say as they're unsure what to say when there's a baby attached to my boob lol

Keep going Hun - you sound determined and Thea is obviously getting what she needs from you x

My let down seems to last a good 10 minutes which is her entire feed, she'll stay on the breast that long and then start choking, I bring her up and 2 minutes later she'll start rooting...we do this about 6-8 times per feed, sometimes she'll refuse to go back on. All the while she screams as even though she's removing herself she must view it as interrupting her feed. The most horrible ones is when she's a bit sleepy so she doesn't notice she's taking to much and milk literally flows out of the nostril at the bottom of the boob.

I've been block feeding since I realised the problem which is why I think her poo's and weight has been good. I find lying back helps too.

It's her feeding screams that make me conscious in public because that combined with milk pouring out of her mouth it looks like I'm doing some kind of baby waterboarding. At home or in front of family/friends I can deal with it but her screaming does put me on edge and I think even one comment or look from a stranger would make my self esteem plummet but I need to get out of this house for my sanity.



The other thing getting me down is I worry she's not viewing me as comforting anymore, she's such a lovely calm baby so it's killing me that I'm the cause of disruption.
 
 
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Jul 26th, 2016, 23:13 PM   #224
 
Hi I had baby boy Frankie 1st may weighing 9lb15oz xxx
 
 
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Jul 27th, 2016, 04:11 AM   #225
 
Hello welcome to our group and congratulations on becoming a mummy@x
 
 
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