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bobkat
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Jul 9th, 2016, 22:38 PM   #136
 
Congrats Eaw! Hope it works out for you. Happy birthday Blueclass.

I know this might seem odd but I wish Joe would poo less, 3-5 in a morning and potentially the same during afternoon. He doesn't go at all at night though, just wet ones.

Tigger is that 20oz of expressed milk you're leaving?? Wow. Joe is feeding every couple of hours but when I leave expressed bottles he only really takes 2-3oz, and I struggle to express more than that off in one sitting. I really want to help him go longer between feeds but even though I offer him both breasts he never takes the second one. I guess he would if he was hungry.
 
 

 
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Jul 9th, 2016, 23:35 PM   #137
 
Yeah she'd never take 20oz, I'm being dramatic, but I've no idea how much she would take! I've chickened out of leaving her now anyway. It's too long.

Had a massive row with hubby tonight. Toddler has been a nightmare all day. I've had pity looks and comments from lots of people. So he finishes work. I went for a lie down. He marches in just after I've nodded off demanding I sort out the baby carrier because he can't. So I took the baby, fed her, he made tea. He let toddler fall asleep (6pm ish). We have dinner, all ok. I asked him if he wanted to do some massage with baby, so he did, looked pissed off the entire time and didn't say one word to her. We had words about this - it really feels like he just can't be arsed with the kids, unless he's in the mood?

So anyway. Bedtime. I take baby to feed, he transfers sleeping toddler. Obviously, sleeping toddler wakes. Then goes mental screaming because he wants mummy and only mummy. Babys fed, so we swap. Toddler nods off immediately, baby screams more than she's ever screamed in her life. 20 mins go by and I come out. (At this point I've also had the bloody dog follow me, because he doesn't like hubby much at the moment). We've just had a huge argument because he's just SAT on the bed with her, he's fed up of walking around, he did it for 10 mins and his feet hurt because he's been on them all day. So, what, I have to sit up with her and rock her now for another 30 mins because you just can't be arsed? He reckons he does try, and it just comes more easily to me and the kids like me better? ARGH. Ive sent him to the spare bed - we have NEVER slept in separate beds due to an argument before now. I'm so mad at him though
 
 

 
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Jul 10th, 2016, 02:44 AM   #138
 
Sorry to hear you had a rough night. Could it just be tiredness? Summer does not really settle for.tom and I end up walking or rocking her for ages it's hard work. I think bf babies are better with mum as they are close to us all the time. Hope.you get it sorted must be tricky having a toddler aswell x
 
 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 13:07 PM   #139
 
It was just the sleep deprivation talking I think, from both of us!! We've made up now so it's ok haha!

Our Monday playgroup has now finished for summer, which is a massive nightmare. We went to the beach this morning instead!

 
 

 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 16:00 PM   #140
 
Hey everyone!

Charlie was 8 weeks on Saturday and will be 2 months on the 14th! Time is flying. His big brother (Noah) turned 3 today!!! Can't believe I have a 3yr old!!!

Anyway, Charlie has his jabs tomorrow, dreading it!
Im excited to get him weighed though
We are still currently ebfing, which I'm finding so easy and enjoyable! Went to Longleat for Noahs birthday on Sat and it was so much better just whacking my boob out, remember rhe days where we did day trips with Noah and packing bottles and formula would take over my life!

Hope everyone is doing well! Xxx
 
 

 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 17:21 PM   #141
 
So glad I found this thread! It's great to read how everyone's getting on and selfishly I am relieved to discover that some of the difficulties that we've been having here have also been experienced by other people!

Yorkslass, I sympathise totally about the weight gain thing. Arthur (2.5 weeks) still hasn't regained his birth weight despite what seems like constant breastfeeding and expressed topups. He looks well to me, and has plenty of wet and dirty nappies, but I feel like some of the midwives and health visitors are hung up on the numbers. Every time I find out he's only gained a little bit of weight I feel like they're judging me for being a bad mother! (They're probably not, but my hormones are haywire and I feel a bit paranoid.) One midwife told me to express after each breastfeed - during the day he feeds every couple of hours; how on earth am I supposed to find time to do that?! When does Rowan get weighed again?

I am really struggling with the lack of sleep too. Arthur is very alert feeding frequently all day, and then would happily sleep long stretches at night (!) but as he's not up to his birthweight I am waking him through the night to feed him. It takes ages to get him awake enough to latch on, then he feeds pretty consistently for 20-25 minutes on the first breast and 10 minutes on the second. Then by the time he's been winded, nappy changed, clothes changed after posseting up milk, I feel like it's almost time for the next feed. When am I supposed to sleep??! I honestly don't know how people manage this stage without cracking up due to exhaustion. I got so tired at the weekend that he was crying for a feed and I could hardly rouse myself to open my bra. Someone tell me it gets easier!
 
 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 17:23 PM   #142
 
Also, I posted this on the original June mummies thread, not knowing this one was going here:

For the people who had vaginal deliveries - how has your recovery been? I had a straightforward delivery and a second degree tear, but 2.5 weeks on I'm housebound as I have pain in my pelvis/vagina if I stand for longer than 5 minutes, and a sensation that my insides are going to come out. The midwife and the GP both say that there's no prolapse and I should "give it time" but I'm going a bit crazy at being so physically restricted. Pre-pregnancy I was fairly fit and active. Has anyone experienced similar?? (I naively thought after a vaginal delivery I'd be up and about as normal immediately afterwards!!)
 
 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 18:27 PM   #143
 
Hey Siskin. The pelvic floor takes a real battering during birth so it can take some time to feel normal again and if your MW and GP aren't worried then try not to (I know how hard that is- I had a 3rd degree last time and had all sorts of worries but all healed fine). Are you doing your pelvic floor exercises? Best advice is to do them as often as you can manage - during every feed is a good way to do them regularly as newborns feed so often.

I also had a second degree tear and part of it doesn't seem to be healing yet (split still visible and can feel the odd twinge down there and don't find it comfy sitting cross-legged). Have a feeling the midwife didn't stitch that bit as the rest has all healed up fine. Not sure how long it should take unstitched but I'm otherwise feeling good so just going to keep an eye on it.

On the breastfeeding it does definitely get easier. It just takes time for baby to get efficient at feeding and for your supply to build up. Is your OH being supportive (bringing you things, helping with nappy changing etc overnight)? How are you waking him? Have you tried stripping him to wake him and changing nappy between breasts? We had to wake to feed to start with with our first and hated it but it won't be forever so try to hang on in there x
 
 

 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 20:58 PM   #144
 
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I am really struggling with the lack of sleep too. Arthur is very alert feeding frequently all day, and then would happily sleep long stretches at night (!)
I wish Phoenix was that way round! She's 6 days old today and for the last two nights has fed solidly from midnight to about 4.30am, THEN she sleeps all day... but I'm waking up at around 7/8am and have had to be up. I'm not good at napping in the day either.

I had a second degree tear but declined stitches. First 4 days I felt like that when stood up but felt better yesterday and normal today so going to attempt to go out tomorrow lol.

Oh, about expressing, I have most luck if I express from one side whilst she feeds from the other. It's a bit tricky at first getting baby latched and supported and getting the breastpump set up on the other one, but it's worth it when you pump more in less time.. maybe give it a try?
 
 

 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 21:33 PM   #145
 
Have you seen these Haakaa breast pumps? They seem to be going a bit nuts over them on Facebook lately - one squeeze, get it on, and it stays and expresses whilst you feed? I don't have one, so not speaking from experience, but may be worth a try. Recommendation is not to get a cheap imitation because even though it says BPA free it may not be, and that can be very bad for you and for baby!

As far as weight gain issues, we've had the same. Luckily all my HCP have been amazing and supportive, my GP was the best. He thinks she was just born bigger than where she was "meant" to be. She's dropped from the 100th centile line to 75th now at 6w old last week - they've said another centile drop and we'll have to see peads and possibly blood tests to check for anything bad, but he thinks she's fine. Cardiac issues are a concern for a baby not gaining weight I think, but there's usually other signs. I've found the pressure to top up really interfered with us - I got massive oversupply (that may now be calming down!) that's then caused a milk bleb and my nipple is SO painful at the moment. I'm really having to give myself a talking to before feeding her on that side.

Is everyone else's house a total pigsty? Hubby does what he can, but between toddler taking out every toy he owns EVERY day, and me not getting the time to tidy up when madam won't be put down (I find cleaning/tidying in a sling quite difficult).

I'm genuinely at a point of thinking I'll just go back to work, put the kids in nursery, and let someone else deal with all the stress of looking after them all day. It makes me sound absolutely awful!!!
 
 

 
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Jul 11th, 2016, 22:01 PM   #146
 
Well my mum's been in a couple of times and cleaned up (no partner so just me so she's helped lol)
But she didn't do anything yesterday and today I washed up, wiped surfaces down, emptied & re loaded the dishwasher, cleaned the bathroom and vacuumed the living room.
Impressed with myself... I'm sure it won't last lol.
I am going to try to keep on top of it though.

And yes Phoenix was in the sling whilst I did it but her head kept lolling at a funny angle and I had to have one of the passes across her head so it didn't flop back when I leant over.

I've not attempted to wash or mop the floor with her yet... think I will have to have on of the older two hold her whilst I do that.
 
 

 
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Jul 12th, 2016, 00:42 AM   #147
 
Hi ladies

Do you mind if I join you all? I am a June mummy but didn't post in the forum during my pregnancy. I've just stumbled across this one by chance as I been looking to see how people were getting On post birth but there was not much info in the June mummy's section. Hope everyone is doing well in their motherhood journeys.

Freya was born on 5th June at 38+1 weeks. I'm struggling at the moment with terrible sleep deprivation. I have a 5 week old who sleeps perfectly while feeding off me or when lying on my chest but as soon as she's put down she's fully awake and screaming to be picked back up. I've tried settling her with Her with a dummy (didn't want to do this) but she won't accept it and will only settle when comforting off my breast.

I also have a 14 month old which I feel totally guilty for as he has no choice but to play on his own most of the day due to baby being stuck on me. Today I made a decision to try feeding her a bit of formula milk which worked wonders as she settled for a couple of hours in her crib and this allowed me to play with my son and get some stuff done. I thought to myself righ that's it I'm getting all the bottles out and my prep machine but as I'm setting things up I felt guilty for giving up so easy so stopped what I was doing and left it at that.

She's been asleep since 4pm waking once to be bathed and fed and then a further feed at 10pm. Got her back to sleep in my arms took her upstairs and bam wide awake so I'm back downstairs typing this post waiting for her to go back off again.

Has anyone got any tips on how I can comfort baby with the putting her on my breast? I'm almost trying to force her to accept a dummy just to give me 5 mins or so but she isn't having any of it :-/

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Jul 12th, 2016, 01:17 AM   #148
 
Hi my baby was born the 7th and very nearly.called freya. Our is the same you put her down and bam she is awake screaming to be picked up and on breast or chest. I have forced her to have a dummy which I didn't want but I need some time to myself. It does not work all the time and still when I put her down she wakes. She has formula and breast and formula seems to help. Don't feel bad about thinking about using formula. I did and still do a bit but I keep telling myself she needs a happy mummy and her bring on boob all day every day was not making me happy. Plus you have another child to look after and think about. All I would say is really think about it my milk has suffered alot and iv had to introduce more and more bottles as im not able to give her enough.
All you can do is your best and say you tried. Do what's best for you and your family. If you give a bottle of formula express so your not missing a feed I think that's where I got wrong. Plus I cant express as much as if lie as she wants to be on me all the time.

What slings does everyone have, I want to buy one so I can clean the house whilst she is on me. Plus I go away with hubby's family in a week or so and they steal my baby and I don't get cuddles so I want to have one so she is on me. X
 
 
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Jul 12th, 2016, 08:43 AM   #149
 
Thanks blueclass.

I really liked the name Freya all through my pregnancy but hubby wasn't so keen so had to just wait till he come round to my way of thinking lol. If he stood his ground though the other names I liked was Edith and Florence (really liked the old fashioned names).

I guess my reluctance to give up comes from giving up so easily on my first child after having latching problems I gave in and put him on formula at two and half weeks old. He then had colic and reflux so it was a nightmare for months after that then. Now my newborn has reflux and already on medication for it.

Even though I've not had problems with my milk supply I've not managed to express much off due to baby being on me so often. However the times I have managed to get some off its been around 4-5 oz at a time so plenty for a feed. I'll be off to playgroup this morning so that will be used while there as I'm not comfortable BF in public even tho there is only 3 adults there and they are both my friends I would never BF in front of them.

I eventually got to bed last night and had a few hours sleep and then back up at 6am with toddler so I've decided I'm not going to fret over it and get myself back to a happy place again and if that means using formula then so be it. At the mo I'm using the ready made stuff till I get my prep machine all set up again and my thinking is the longer I delay setting it up the more likely I am in sticking to BF as buying the ready made stuff is expensive lol.

I've also bought a sling to help get about the house tried it out when it arrived on Saturday and baby fell asleep immediately in it. But I have to master putting it on as her face is covered when in it which isn't supposed to be. This is the one I bought. It's very comfy on as well.

http://www.naturalbabyshower.co.uk/p...oba-wrap-black

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Jul 12th, 2016, 09:07 AM   #150
 
Thanks il look now. Freya was my hubby's frav name and if we have another child and it's a girl that will be her name as I won the battle of names this time lol. Yes the longer you delay it the more likely you are to carry on, I also have premade stuff and powder. I don't bf or express in the night it's the day I tend to do it as I don't have the energy. I'm sure what ever you do will be the right choice so take it easy and try not to get to stressed about it. I bf in public and use a apron type thing. X
 
 
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