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Rose83
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Mar 29th, 2016, 23:35 PM   #16
 
Bubbles my MIL would do the same, she is a totally selfless lady who would never put her wishes before the health of her grandchild - couldn't be more different than my mum!

I was at the GP this morning getting treatment for the dreaded nipple thrush had it so bad with my daughter that i spotted the signs really early so hopefully won't cause me too much of a problem. Also got antibiotics because I'm still having some sinus problems that are making me snore so badly my OH would like to disown me! X
 
 

 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 11:49 AM   #17
 
How are you all? Just dropping in to see how you are getting on. Is everyone recovering nicely?

How is feeding for everyone? I'm finding breastfeeding so so hard ! He'll either look at me with his mouth closed or scream the house down,headbutt me and keep putting his hands in the way. Just as I'm about to crack he'll sometomes randomly have a good feed. I'm managing to stay calm but I'm so frightened they'll say he isn't getting enough and needs to move to bottles.
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I think he would sleep most of the night if I didn't have to wake him to feed, he's a good sleeper and easy to comfort as long as you aren't trying to get him to feed. Sometimes it might take an hour to get him to feed for 10 minutes. Anyone else having this kind of trouble? The midwifes are advising when take they come round but I haven't cracked it yet.
 
 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 15:57 PM   #18
 
Hi ladies, is it ok if I join you? My little George was born on 25th Feb and I've been missing Tri 3 chats- would love to be part of a group here!

Mel I had problems feeding too and it's only just starting to settle a month on- it's so difficult! I phoned the National Breastfeeding Helpline in despair- I didn't think they'd be able to do much but I wanted reassurance that my baby was getting enough. Actually I was on the phone for almost an hour as the lady on the other end was so fantastic. She talked me through all sorts of things and totally sorted out my latch and positioning- I couldn't believe how helpful she was. I've also been to a milkspot a few times- don't know if they have them where you live but it's basically a breastfeeding group run by midwives. That was really helpful too and it was fun to meet other mums.
 
 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 17:30 PM   #19
 
Hi Mel, my first daughter was a bit like that. In the end I timed how long I was spending trying to feed her and it was 8 hours per day I gave up after 13 exhausting weeks when she was hardly gaining until we started to mix feed at 7 weeks. I felt like the worst failure in the world, some well meaning but misguided people even suggested that my breast milk was too low calorie (what the actual f***?! I know better than to listen to such rubbish and get frightened now).

What almost helped us (but it was too late to fully rescue our BF as I was worn out by then) was take her to a cranial osteopath who diagnosed and treated an issue with her palate that made it painful for DD1 to feed. Her latch improved immediately and her uptake of milk increased but my supply would have needed to be established again then, and I didn't have it in me by then.

But that's my story... Reading yours I would suggest 2 things: look into reflux /silent reflux that might make it painful for your LO to feed; and also look into tongue or lip tie that might do the same. If your LO knows to anticipate pain when feeding they might well behave in the way you describe X
 
 

 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 19:27 PM   #20
 
I'm doing combined feeding. Our breastfeeding didn't get off to the best start after our hospital stay with no support and I left there with cracked and bleeding nipples. I decided to bottle feed then as both me and Joseph got completely distressed when trying to get him latched on. I felt guilty so started expressing, and now have come full circle and am breastfeeding again with much more success. Only problem is my milk never came in properly so I never completely satisfy him so he usually needs a top up of formula but he's mainly getting my milk and putting on weight nicely so I'm quite proud of that.

Saw GP today, wound looking a bit infected where it's opened a bit so put on 2 weeks worth of antibiotics. And I've got to restart my iron tablets as levels still much below what they should be, one thing after another!
 
 

 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 19:43 PM   #21
 
Well done on combined feeding Emcb. That is a really good achievement to have come a full circle like that. He might look Unsatisfied but he's probably trying to establish your milk supply even better - just a thought X
 
 

 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 22:24 PM   #22
 
Good advice about tongue tie and reflux checking there - could be what's causing problems.
I'm exclusively breastfeeding and it's been a lot easier than it was with my daughter - even the thrush isn't causing me much discomfort now I have stuff for it.

Anyone who is or has tried breastfeeding and has sore and cracked nipple still then I can't recommend highly enough asking your GP to prescribe ActiForm Cool would dressings - they are like a clear gel pad that you can cut to size and slip in your bra and they sort of stick to nipple if you place them there. They work wonders and will heal the cracks and make you feel a lot better. I was recommended it with my daughter by another breast feeder and it worked so quickly. Told me GP about it yesterday and he said that was a great tip and he'd
Be remembering that for future patients as they don't have much to do with dressings as
It's mainly nurses that deal with that stuff x
 
 

 
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Mar 30th, 2016, 23:52 PM   #23
 
I've now gone back to exclusively breast feeding , and it's hit and miss , I breast fed my daughter until she was 1 so know how to latch a baby , but this little Madame won't open her mouth wide enough for long enough especially on the right side , the initial few sucks ,P make me cry out! So imim guessing she's not quite latching good enough. I'm trying everything including holding her chin . I think I need to get a little help this time. My nipples hurt , like bruised hurt , the midwives all said she has an extraordinary strong suck though .

She hasn't much rhythm to her feeding as of yet , maybe every three hours , some great advice in here. X
 
 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 00:06 AM   #24
 
Birdo I have a friend whose little boy had a very strong suck but it turned out to be tongue tie related - have you been checked? Also she swore by medela nipple shields in the first few weeks so her nipples didn't get totally wrecked. Never tried them myself but they could help x
 
 

 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 10:57 AM   #25
 
Oh yes nipple shields - so many people swear by them! No experience but plenty of great feedback heard in the past X
 
 

 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 19:13 PM   #26
 
Rose the midwives checked and said no tongue tie , now I'm becoming engorged and it's coming too fast for her to have ... God I hope it steadies soon X
 
 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 19:15 PM   #27
 
I'm also very tearful and feeling very much alone , especially with this struggle , well it's all been a struggle ... LOVE my baby so much , I just want it to get easier now ..... It's almost breaking me to go to formula , but I know I will be so disappointed in. Myself X
 
 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 19:21 PM   #28
 
Hey everyone thanks for the good advice! just an update ...

I'm a ftm and still learning, I think I was putting too much emphasis on timing his feeding (roughly every 3 hours) instead of looking out for the signs he was ready like head turning and hand licking even if he seems otherwise calm. Last day and a half has been much better, I think he actually just needs it more often and maybe was too frustrated by the time i was offering it previously. Still a little trouble latching on but he seems calmer for the most part. I'm sure the battle isn't over but I'm pleased with the little progress we've had. I was also desperate to get 20 minute feeds but the midwife said I might not always need to if I have a good supply, fast flow etc which I seem to.

P.s he's amazing... I want another baby
 
 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 19:27 PM   #29
 
Hahaha Mel you are just like me - both my babies I said 'I want to do it again' moments after giving birth!

I demand feed at the moment Mel - basically whenever he starts sticking his tongue out, crying or searching for a boob he goes on. Does mean I had 16 feeds a day at one point, down to 10-12 now though and I know it will start to regulate soon x
 
 

 
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Mar 31st, 2016, 19:28 PM   #30
 
Haha yes rose i feel so frightened of him growing up that i want to plan the next. I have this strange feeling of missing everything that happened last week even tho i hate hospitals and desperately wanted out not to mention the pain.

birdo sorry to hear that - chin up!

My midwife suggested if it's the difference between breaking point and still persisting with bf it wouldn't be the worst thing to have a ready made bottle in the house for emergencies when you are about to crack, and I think she said that one off shouldn't cause much nipple confusion.

Have you expressed any to help with discomfort in the meantime?
 
 
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