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stacey2404
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I feel so down

Oct 15th, 2014, 13:21 PM   #1
 
I am 22 and my lb is 7 months old now and I have no friends!
I lost most of my friends at school through no fault of my own and got very badly bullied. I then went to uni and made some new friends as a nursing student but had to take time out for my maternity leave.
I feel so lonely I spend most days at my mums or on my own with the little one. (Fiance works 2-10pm most days)
He has just left for work atm and I'm crying my eyes out like an idiot, with pure frustration mostly.
I have tried to make friends at baby groups etc but most of the parents are older at them. I
am so fed up please tell me I'm not the only one?
My little boy is the most precious thing in my life but at times I feel like he is the ONLY thing in my life and we get a big sick of each other's company lol.
There is only so many games of peek a boo I can play and only so many times i can clean the house without going mad.
I had quite an active social life previous to pregnancy so this is really affecting me.


Sorry about how jumbled this message is I just needed to get it all off my chest 😢
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 14:01 PM   #2
 
I felt exactly the same hun. I was going to be a sahm but after 18 months I decided to get little part time job. Its a massive downgrade in terms of where I was in my career, and we don't need the money, but it has really helped my self esteem and confidence in getting out there and meeting new people at work. I would now say I have acquaintances and feel all the better for it. Xxx
 
 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 14:07 PM   #3
 
I am going back to uni full time in January to finish my course so that should help a bit but January seems forever away just now! �� x
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 14:59 PM   #4
 
i know exactly how you feel! my boyfriend works 6-4 and i either stay in the house with my 10 week old or go to my mums. i literally have 2 friends but one i hardly ever see and the other thinks that a baby shouldnt change my life and i should go out geting pissed every weekend and has no problem trying to make me feel like im missing out! obviously i love spending my days with lily and i like going to see my family (Although they annoy me with "do this do that") but it would be nice to have mummy friends! xx
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 15:02 PM   #5
 
The friends I still have are the same. 'We're going out for such and suchs birthday, just get a babysitter!'

I wish they would realise it's not that simple. Especially now that he won't settle for anyone but me and night time
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 15:23 PM   #6
 
Why don't you speak to your local childrens centre to see if they have any ideas for younget mum support groups?

Your HV may be able to advise aswell?

Chin up - x
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 16:18 PM   #7
 
my daughter is the same, she is ok in the day to be settled by anyone but ay night she wants mummy. i feel like saying to my friend that i knew what i was giving up when i was trying for her and im happy not going out all the time! i hope you feel better soon, if you ever want a chat you can message me if you like x
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 17:06 PM   #8
 
My local children's centre does groups for young mums.

Your not alone though as I feel the same some days and weeks. I miss work the social side of it, although I wouldn't swap my time with my little boy for anything. I have some acquaintances at baby groups but sometimes that leaves me empty.

Have you tried going out for walks? Maybe some fresh air would make you feel better. Even a trip to browse the shops might be nice
 
 

 
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Oct 15th, 2014, 20:01 PM   #9
 
I felt exactly the same when my DD was born. I was 19, lived 100 miles from all my family/friends and my partner worked nights so I basically saw him 3-4 hours a day! I went to mum and baby groups to and I met some lovely friends but we have lost touch since I moved back home! It's hard being a mum especially with little support! I remember crying most day and I ended up with post natal depression! Especially as DD had horrendous colic and would screen for 4 hours solid every night!!!

With my son I felt the same! And even every now and again i still have moments. I started my nurse training after my son was born because I wanted something else in my life apart from being a mum! I qualified march 14 and now have a job on a cardiology ward which is lovely! I have one great friend I met in college whilst doing the access course and we still meet up every now and then 6 years on! I have my mum friends but I didn't meet them until DD stated school. Up till then I had no friends that were mums too!

Hang in there hon your doing great! I'm here if you just want chat! Take care hon
 
 

 
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