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Dealing with crying

May 14th, 2013, 15:27 PM   #1
 
How do you not take it personally when LO cries inconsolably? We're not sure whether it's colic or overfeeding (exclusively BF). I know I'm not a bad mum but not being able to soothe him is killing me. I've had several meltdowns over the last few days, and had to hand him over to my mum for a few hours while I just sobbed.

I know it's a stage they go through, but how do you get through it without going mad?

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May 14th, 2013, 16:39 PM   #2
 
You get used to it, h had terrible colic and reflux as well as other problems and cried all the time, you just kinda block it out after a while! I found it was better when we was out so I asked for hours in the early days! He is now 15 months and barely cries at all!
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May 14th, 2013, 16:44 PM   #3
 
I'm still going through it honey and Spencer is 11 weeks I take it very personally though which I shouldn't!

HOWEVER!!! we've just found out why and you may want to look in to it? Spencer's just been diagnosed lactose intolerant which is why he's been so upset cause he's been in pain. Lactose is naturally found in breast milk so even you giving up lactose won't stop it.

It may be worth mentioning to your doctor or health visitor?

Is he particularly upset after a feed?

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May 14th, 2013, 17:19 PM   #4
 
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I'm still going through it honey and Spencer is 11 weeks I take it very personally though which I shouldn't!

HOWEVER!!! we've just found out why and you may want to look in to it? Spencer's just been diagnosed lactose intolerant which is why he's been so upset cause he's been in pain. Lactose is naturally found in breast milk so even you giving up lactose won't stop it.

It may be worth mentioning to your doctor or health visitor?

Is he particularly upset after a feed?

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Spencer David Wilcockson 28/2/2013 6lbs 3.5ozs
It's a bit hit and miss at the moment. The HV said it was colic and the MW thinks it's overfeeding after watching him latch on and feed. He is definitely a guzzler. Sometimes he's fine after a feed and then others it's like he's in agony.

I don't think it is to do with lactose, my mum is lactose intolerant and does allergy testing (alternative so not medical) so has already checked this out.
 
 

 
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May 14th, 2013, 18:38 PM   #5
 
Josh is 6wks and also feel the same. We are trying colief drops in his bottles. To be honest it's not working. He cries, like a lot! It's rare he is content. If he's not crying he's asleep and then struggles to sleep alone! No idea if that's just te way he is as we've mentioned it to docs as HV but they don't say anything!
 
 
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May 19th, 2013, 02:48 AM   #6
 
If I was u ladies I would look up silent reflux . My jack was exactly the same till the doctor prescribed him gaviscon for babies and now he is like a different child. So settled between feeds, only grumbles when wet or hungry. Only ever really cries if I don't feed him within half an hour of his feed time. Xxx
 
 

 
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May 23rd, 2013, 16:15 PM   #7
 
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Josh is 6wks and also feel the same. We are trying colief drops in his bottles. To be honest it's not working. He cries, like a lot! It's rare he is content. If he's not crying he's asleep and then struggles to sleep alone! No idea if that's just te way he is as we've mentioned it to docs as HV but they don't say anything!
He could be overtired. My son screamed the place down till he was about six weeks cos he wasn't sleeping enough in the day. Now we know to help him to sleep in the day there's less crying in the evening. He too struggles to sleep alone which is so hard. I either have to take him out for a walk or in the car or hold him to make him sleep!!
 
 
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May 23rd, 2013, 16:18 PM   #8
 
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Josh is 6wks and also feel the same. We are trying colief drops in his bottles. To be honest it's not working. He cries, like a lot! It's rare he is content. If he's not crying he's asleep and then struggles to sleep alone! No idea if that's just te way he is as we've mentioned it to docs as HV but they don't say anything!
He could be overtired. My son screamed the place down till he was about six weeks cos he wasn't sleeping enough in the day. Now we know to help him to sleep in the day there's less crying in the evening. He too struggles to sleep alone which is so hard. I either have to take him out for a walk or in the car or hold him to make him sleep!!


Also find he struggles to sleep alone, walk and car seems to work. It maybe is him being overtired. He's fine at night when we're there. I don't want to encourage clingy-ness though! Hope he does grow out of this!
 
 
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May 26th, 2013, 20:02 PM   #9
 
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Josh is 6wks and also feel the same. We are trying colief drops in his bottles. To be honest it's not working. He cries, like a lot! It's rare he is content. If he's not crying he's asleep and then struggles to sleep alone! No idea if that's just te way he is as we've mentioned it to docs as HV but they don't say anything!
He could be overtired. My son screamed the place down till he was about six weeks cos he wasn't sleeping enough in the day. Now we know to help him to sleep in the day there's less crying in the evening. He too struggles to sleep alone which is so hard. I either have to take him out for a walk or in the car or hold him to make him sleep!!


Also find he struggles to sleep alone, walk and car seems to work. It maybe is him being overtired. He's fine at night when we're there. I don't want to encourage clingy-ness though! Hope he does grow out of this!
I don't think at that young an age they will learn to become too clingy. I think with my son he is just far too nosey and if there is something catching his attention he will fight sleep to look at it instead. He's fine at night and I think it's cos we're asleep too! He needs to be bored to sleep! Even in the car, you have to put the sun visor down on the car seat sometimes for him to nod off! My son is also more than happy to be put down so he can have a good wee nosey round and has no problems letting me know when he doesn't want to be held, so he's not too clingy.
 
 
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May 27th, 2013, 13:26 PM   #10
 
I've hired a sling and it is working absolute wonders for Evan. He did have an almighty crying session last night which was soothed by a dummy, but I hadn't put him in the sling much yesterday
 
 

 
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May 30th, 2013, 11:44 AM   #11
 
I agree you end up re-tuning your ears so its not as eye watering!! Colic is horrible for babies and when they cry, they cry!! I felt the same as you but things do get better, I just thought to myself that we were both adapting to each other and having a baby is such a shock to the system when you used to having mostly quiet in the house! Just take deep breaths and I just thought hes trying to tell me hes not happy and the only way he can communicate with me is by crying. Youll be great and remember deep breaths!
 
 

 
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Jul 2nd, 2013, 10:04 AM   #12
 
I think my son has reflux but I feel like the GP isnt listening to me, hes very hard to settled we have to keep him upright after feeds for at least half an hour or he vomits up all his milk, the dr said oh he just has colic youll have to ride it out, ive broke down so many times I just feel like I need help and the dr couldnt care. Its awful to hear him cry the way he does and I cant soothe him and now hubby has gone back to work I feel ive been left alone to deal with it
 
 

 
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Jul 2nd, 2013, 10:20 AM   #13
 
Do you have a health visitor you can talk to? It was her that got everything sorted with the doctors for us x


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Jul 2nd, 2013, 11:08 AM   #14
 
Shes coming back on thursday, my sister in law was round shes a children's nurse shes convinced its reflux she gave me some infant gaviscon, hes stopoed crying, no vomiting and has just slept for almost 2 hours, so good to see him comfortable, now to trh and get rid of the trapped wind
 
 

 
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Jul 2nd, 2013, 11:18 AM   #15
 
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Shes coming back on thursday, my sister in law was round shes a children's nurse shes convinced its reflux she gave me some infant gaviscon, hes stopoed crying, no vomiting and has just slept for almost 2 hours, so good to see him comfortable, now to trh and get rid of the trapped wind
Well definitely tell her the gaviscon worked and hopefully she'll get you a prescription. There's lots of stuff for reflux so fx you get it sorted x


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