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Jan 11th, 2013, 11:38 AM   #16
 
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in my experience i love freddie and charlie equally for different reasons as theyre both different babies. but with charlie i seem to have just that something more special...im not sure if its just because hes older and freddie doesnt really do anything atm or if its that charlie was my first and all of my first mummy experiences were with him iykwim?

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Jan 11th, 2013, 11:47 AM   #17
 
its not like i dont love freddie so dont be worrying if you do feel this way, on the flipside freddies my youngest baby so i have different special things with both of them. freddie has yet to develop a little personality like charlie too, at the minute he just eats whinges poops and sleeps.

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Jan 11th, 2013, 13:54 PM   #18
 
Yeah i know i will love them equally and i can't wait for some pink in the house!! But i just wonder if its natural and if i will still feel something more for Cam x

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Jan 12th, 2013, 19:49 PM   #19
 
without meaning to sound nasty to freddie, if he was a girl things might be different x

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Jan 14th, 2013, 11:08 AM   #20
 
having had my 2nd 11 days ago i can say that my love for ds1 has gone up and how i feel for ds2 matches it....j is sooo good with g and tries to help so much and gives him lots of hugs. its magical to watch and im so proud of how j has deallt with it. i could have written the same and did post sonething simikar but ny god.......i didnt know love this intense existed........xx u do just make it work a .... im no pro and f has only been home a day but im in awe of josh and in swe of greg. this feeling is wonderful lol...x
 
 
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Jan 14th, 2013, 13:20 PM   #21
 
I have two boys. Brad is 7, so I was really worried about the age gap and because its been just the three of us for such a long time!! And I worried about the sharing love thing.
But brad is a awesome big brother. Help out, feeds Ollie and helps me out. And Ollie watches his every move!! I don't feel like I am sharing my love, I've got more for both my boys. I get time with Ollie while brad is at school then I have time for brad on a evening
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Jan 14th, 2013, 20:00 PM   #22
 
I know i will love her, i already do. I just fell like Cam is going to feel put out or that we don't love him as much as before. Its fear of the unknown Xx

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Jan 14th, 2013, 22:06 PM   #23
 
we made sure that greg bought joshua a present .....again wev only has g home a day now so might all change btw x
 
 
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Jan 14th, 2013, 22:27 PM   #24
 
OH and I have had a couple of conversations about this too. I keep thinking 'well how can Harry sleep in our room and we have to leave Jack all alone in his own room?' even though Jack's all alone right now in his own room and Harry's not here?! lol OH says how can he love Harry as much as Jack because Jack is 'his Jack' lol he obviously knows he'll love both of his Son's equally he just can't get his head around it yet.

The way I see it we'll fall in love with Harry just like we did Jack when we first laid eyes on him.

My other problem is Jack has absolutely no clue whats about to happen, knowing Jack he'll give Harry a poke, think he's boring because he can't do anything and ignore him until he can play with him. I'm very worried about jealousy because we are very very close but i'm aiming to give Jack as much reassurance as possible when Harry arrives xx
 
 

 
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Jan 14th, 2013, 22:31 PM   #25
 
This was my fear and in a way still is. DS1 was my world and now DS2 is here I worry still that he is feeling pushed aside as we did everything together, my little sidekick who could not be loved more. I love them both equally but my heart strings pull when I think of my eldest because of as you say they don't choose to have a sibling. He is an AMAZING big brother and at times (well more often than not) i feel that I am constantly saying "Just step back from him, stop cuddling him so much, let go of his hand! My new worry is that I am now causing a negative effect with me constantly telling DS1 to leave DS2 alone! HE is VERY intense.
 
 

 
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Jan 27th, 2013, 09:53 AM   #26
 
I'm so pleased to read this thread as iv been worried too!

When I found out I was pregnant this time I felt very sad and upset as it was unplanned (god that sounds awful) for various reasons (financial, physical, relationship etc) but the biggest thing for me (and still is) is a massive sense of guilt towards Will

He is only 13 mo and I'm now 20 weeks pregnant. I really feel like iv taken 'his time' with us away

And then I feel guilt on the baby for thinking this way.

I have accepted I'm pregnant now and starting to look forward to it but I do worry about my little man and I do feel like iv let him down a bit

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Jan 27th, 2013, 09:56 AM   #27
 
Oh pos,i think Will will love being a big brother and i think he just wont remeber the time when.it was just him,i am sure he will be fine.
I am still a bit worried about keeping A entertained but i guess we will go for walks in the park as it will be spring/summer and let him run around which keeps him happy

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Jan 27th, 2013, 10:14 AM   #28
 
Im worried about o too. He will be 2 years 2 months and I wonder what it will be like??

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Jan 27th, 2013, 10:47 AM   #29
 
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Oh pos,i think Will will love being a big brother and i think he just wont remeber the time when.it was just him,i am sure he will be fine.
I am still a bit worried about keeping A entertained but i guess we will go for walks in the park as it will be spring/summer and let him run around which keeps him happy

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Jan 27th, 2013, 10:49 AM   #30
 
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Oh pos,i think Will will love being a big brother and i think he just wont remeber the time when.it was just him,i am sure he will be fine.
I am still a bit worried about keeping A entertained but i guess we will go for walks in the park as it will be spring/summer and let him run around which keeps him happy

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We can go together and A and W can keep each other company xx
Defo, i will.be doing lots of walking to shift the weight too! Chech your PM hun x

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