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First day at nursery went badly, any advice?

Jan 2nd, 2013, 16:49 PM   #1
LO started nursery today. He went for two hours only, my OH dropped him off and was told to leave LO for two hours. After less than an hour the nursery called OH back as LO was so distressed

I don't know what to do. I'm at work and LO is meant to do 2 full days per week from next Tuesday. I feel really upset.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal for the nursery to call us back? Will it get better?


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Jan 2nd, 2013, 17:00 PM   #2
Was this the first time LO has ever been there? Usually they do an hour with you, so as to get LO used to the environment but with you there for comfort. Then the next time you leave LO for an hour, the next time 2 hours etc. The first few times LO will be upset, but they usually settle quickly, once they learn that you always come back. Try taking a familiar toy or blanket to comfort LO with. It's hard, but sometimes the best thing to is drop and run, the longer you stay the harder it will be on LO. You should also have a Key Person that will be your main contact, and this person should be responsible for helping LO settle in. I am a nursery nurse so PM me if you want.
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Jan 2nd, 2013, 19:04 PM   #3
I am a childminder, and when a new baby starts with me I usually offer to have the baby and parent around for an hour or so together, then do a couple of 3 hour blocks with baby staying and then build up days until they are doing the full amount that parents will be working. i have never had to call back a parent in a settling session to collect them. we can usually pacify them, entertain them with the new toys, give lots of cuddle, take for walk in pushchair or offer a snack - do some water play - which usually sooths most babies and young children.

If you can I would arrange to go on a day you are not working with him and stay for a while, I don' think they can stop you doing this. Is the nursery very busy and noisy as this can be very overwhelming for them. Not trying to promote childminders over nurseries, but they usually only have 1 or no other young babies and only a limited amount of children - so the atmosphere is more homely and relaxed. if he doesn't end up settling at the nursery maybe you could look into that.
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Jan 4th, 2013, 21:39 PM   #4
My LO went to the nursery for two one hour sessions on her own for two days running before going for her first full day. I got my dad to take her for them and she was fine - she was used to getting looked after by him and my nana though, not just me all the time. Is your LO just used to you, or is he used to others looking after him too? Maybe the nursery will let you do a settling in session with you there as well to get him used to the people so he feels less shy? I don't really know what else to suggest - my LO settled fine initially, then went through a phase of crying when me or her dad left her there, but she always cheered up shortly after we went, I've no experience of what they would do if they wouldn't settle. Can imagine how worried you feel though, I felt like crying my eyes out every time I left her crying even when I knew she was fine five mins later.

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